Looking In The mirror!


In each moment we have an urge it can be helpful to remind ourselves that we are clean and that the urge will pass. That we can ride it out. Remember to reach out to others and use the tools you have daily.  Consider looking in the mirror and reminding yourself what this meme says:

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Friday July 27, 2018

I have value even when I feel I don’t. Remember that there are people around you that would love to hear from you when you’re struggling.


Saturday July 28, 2018

In each moment you are not alone even when you are in a room by yourself. Consider joining groups that can help your recovery.



Sunday July 29, 2018

Don’t struggle alone! If you have a lot of relapses and/ or Urges reach out to get the help available. Consider getting support.



Recovery From Simon And Garfunkel !

Reading this song I realized something so what can you hear when you read it?
The Sound of Silence
Hello darkness, my old friend
I’ve come to talk with you again
Because a vision softly creeping
Left its seeds while I was sleeping
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence
In restless dreams I walked alone
Narrow streets of cobblestone
‘Neath the halo of a street lamp
I turned my collar to the cold and damp
When my eyes were stabbed by the flash of a neon light
That split the night
And touched the sound of silence
And in the naked light I saw
Ten thousand people, maybe more
People talking without speaking
People hearing without listening
People writing songs that voices never share
No one dared
Disturb the sound of silence
“Fools” said I, “You do not know
Silence like a cancer grows
Hear my words that I might teach you
Take my arms that I might reach you”
But my words like silent raindrops fell
And echoed in the wells of silence
And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon god they made
And the sign flashed out its warning
In the words that it was forming
And the sign said, “The words of the prophets
Are written on the subway walls
And tenement halls”
And whispered in the sounds of silence
Songwriters: Paul Simon
The Sound of Silence lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Monday July 23, 2018
Let your pain out and sit in the darkness for a moment while looking for the light of Dawn.  It will come.
Tuesday July 24, 2018
Recovery is a process be willing to sit in the pain then live in the recovery.

TUG (Tough Urge Guard)



An Urge to gamble can be hard to fight but despite the difficulty there are ways to fight and win more than lose.  So are you fighting urges without having the best tools for you?  Consider looking at what tools are available!


Wednesday July 18, 2018

In early recovery and sometimes later it can creep up on us. You know what I’m talking about.  That urge that comes out of nowhere (or so we think).  Consider ‘surfing’ past it.  Check out what you can through recovery communities of every sort!

Thursday July 19, 2018

Recovery is taking bad character flaws and channeling them toward a good thing in stead of letting it take you where you don’t want to go!


Check out the new group for struggling with urges!


Background On Joining Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect (A Facebook Group For Recovery)


I know you are asking what am I talking about.  Well let me tell you the story and why I am writing this post.


It all began on December 29, 2017 when I started a page to help people who are in recovery from Compulsive Gambling.  Well not exactly…

It really started November 21, 2007 when I began a journey that has brought me to today. That was the day I stopped Gambling and started looking for a way to fight the addiction.  As time went on I began writing books and growing in recovery.

As time went on I met Dawn B who pointed out Facebook Pages as a place that support was at. This brought me to Facebook and introduced me to people around the world fighting the same addiction.

As time went on I found myself looking for ways to make things more helpful. That led me to try my hand at Facebook pages and ultimately to December 29, 2017 and the page presently in action and growing.

In the interim I met others Maggy, Jeannie, Pam, Al and so many others. One crossed my path and in the months leading up to the page being born showed me something called zoom. Amy tried but it was difficult because some were interested without necessarily being motivated.  Her concept was rolled into the new page.

So today If you go to Facebook and search Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect we appear. In the group you will find people from around the world who are seeking help and looking to understand the addiction. What started with a small group of 20 has en growing and become a safe place.

Here is why it is safe:  Administrators look at each request and evaluate them by standards meant to keep those working recovery safe.  If you want to join it is important that you answer the questions and if an administrator reaches out to you respond to them. It is no small feat  but it is necessary to keep everyone safe.

Consider checking it out and joining our growing family of over 400. We offer resources in abundance and meetings 7 days a week 365 days a year and 18 times or more a day!



Growing In Recovery!


It was December 29, 2017 and I felt I had to expand my horizons beyond where I was. So cam the idea of starting a small group to help a few people.  I figured I’d start with 20 people I already knew and from past experiences the group might, if everything worked out be at 75 or 100 by the end of the year. I am humbled by the growth which is fast approaching 400 (4 times expectations).  Now I am growing beyond what I thought recovery could be and seeing the world from my laptop!  Some readers will know what I’m talking about and others will wonder what I’m saying.


Monday June 18, 2018

Recovery is not about tomorrow but rather about right now. If you put your energy into this moment it will be something more! Remember ‘grow beyond I can’t to I am at this moment’.


Tuesday June 19, 2018

If you want to find recovery you simply have to look in the mirror. Remember to look past your addict to your true self!


A Very Late But Maybe Timely Message!


I have been exhausted lately and as a result I forgot the weekend encouragement. I guess it can be blamed on Father’s Day Weekend.  SO while Friday is missed this week I will write for the weekend.

Friday June 15 And Saturday June 16, 2018!

Sometimes we need to consider the future so that it is secured but not considering it over today, I have experienced several ‘wake up’ calls lately  that have me thinking about the continuation of what as been started even after my days have passed. It may seem morbid but consider this.  The goal of recovery is to ‘share the message with those who still suffer’ that doesn’t end when life ends. If your message or something you do has made a difference it should be carried on by the next generation.  Hope springs eternal in recovery.  Remember that what you do in this moment may have profound affects on someone long after you have gone. Today matters because tomorrow someone could be saved as a result.

Sunday June 17, 2018

Your hope today is the gift to someone tomorrow! A simple word of encouragement,  a smile or simply being there could be the moment someone sees a future they never knew was possible.  Remember that you matter and are significant even in the small things.


Wits End!


Well sometimes we come to our ‘wits end’ and need someone to be our refreshment. Someone to remind us that our ‘wits’ don’t define us. Recovery is a place of looking at the addiction as where we were and not where we want to be. Recovery comes at our ‘wits end’ because then we have to look for others to help us move forward.

Monday June 11, 2018

Even in recovery we will get frustrated and tired but the experience is different. In our addiction it was hopelessness and the feeling of being alone. In recovery we seek our brothers and sisters. Why do we do this?  Because we have learned we are not alone!  Remember that you are not alone and that when things get hard we can lean on those who are on this journey with us.

Tuesday June 12, 2018

When we are at our ‘wits end’ we finally find our recovery’s beginning.  Remember that recovery is when we focus on being better than our addiction says we are.


Looking for help in recovery?  On Facebook?  Look up my group and consider joining! It’s called Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect!  Join the family by answering the questions and knowing that you are not alone!