For a long time this blog has had encouragements posted 3 times a week to cover every day. It is now being evaluated because of some advertising that shows up with it that is counter to the principles of Recovery. Since the posts are intended to help with recovery from Compulsive Gambling it is counter productive to have advertisements for Gambling establishments come up with it. In recent days there has been an increase in that type of advertising so for the next few weeks it will be down unless a solution can be found.
Well it seems I found myself a bit distracted over the bast few days. But even so I finally wrote this. Recovery isn’t about when we get started but that we do get started. I wrote this as encouragement for Wednesday and Thursday But it arrived so late that it will be Thursday at the point it arrives. Again though at least it arrived. Consider the family that has been waiting to get their addict family member back. They are glad to have you back before you die which means they never got you back! So remember it isn’t about when but it is about that we are doing it. If we didn’t then those we love would not have a chance to have you back in their life at all! So for August 22 and 23 (Wednesday and Thursday) remember that thought! “Better late than never!”
We often struggle with recovery because there has been so much pain in our addiction. It haunts us and we seek to hide from it. Sadly the pain is part of the growing process of recovery. Without it we are simply ‘numb’ to reality.
Monday August 20, 2018
Remember that recovery is not a guarantee of instant repair. It is a guarantee of hard work ahead.
Tuesday August 21, 2018
Recovery is healing many wounds both to us and ones we have given. It will take time but will also be worth more than we could ever imagine!
It has been rough lately but we persevere despite being attacked and put down. Struggles are a part of recovery no matter how long you have been in recovery. I will share my own experience. As Trouble flared in a group I found myself thinking back to my old ways of escape. I stopped myself but also had other thoughts. Some are familiar and others have long been suppressed by my working recovery.
24 hours ago I was ready to ‘throw in the towel’ and let things end with respect to that group ( I created it to help and felt it was being destroyed). My fellowship of recovery talked me out of it. But still the pain was there. I considered drinking away my sorrows but that would solve nothing. I began to have my severe depression set in and even as I prepared to write this considered the unthinkable.
It is because I am not perfect and yet have people around me who support recovery that such things do not happen. I will not let my depression, my addiction or other people prevent me from my recovery.
August 17, 18 and 19 (Friday, Saturday and Sunday)
Thoughts for the weekend:
Recovery is knowing you can’t do it alone and that you don’t have to.
Hope can come from pain.
Recovery is allowing yourself to feel but not allowing the feelings to control your actions.
As I sit for the 3rd time in several months waiting for a car repair I think of how our recovery helps us be secure in who we are despite our insecurities that were plaguing us in our addiction. We no longer need to lie to hide from others. No longer is rumor a way to create distractions from ourselves and we are becoming content in the moment.
Wednesday August 15, 2018
Remember that our old self is still lurking and as a result we should remember that our new self (the pre addiction self of better) is there for a reason. Our desire to remain clean! Focus on that desire in this moment and know that we are better for it.
Thursday August 16, 2018
Recovery is growth. If we stop growing in our recovery we risk prison, insanity and/ or death. Remember how good it feels to be secure in this moment and the hope it gives us for the next moment.
Sometimes we get to far ahead of ourselves and sometimes we are behind the curve. Learning to just be ‘in the moment’ is key to recovery because we can’t do anything about yesterday and tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet BUT this moment will help determine the next moment. If we are aware of where we are (or when we are) it tends to keep us focused.
Monday August 13, 2018
This post is coming out late but it still is in this moment. remember to be focused. Recovery is being present in the moment.
Tuesday August 14, 2018
Recovery is a journey and it needs to have a safe place to get the food to flourish. Allow yourself to find peace!
Males and Females have some similarities and some differences in recovery if you are struggling with where you are consider two groups.
Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect is where you will find help regardless of your gender and it can help with your recovery.
Grow: Gambling Recovery of Women is the sister group that is helpful for women who need the connection in a safe place first. It is not a place where you will find the things sometimes seen because it is JUST FOR WOMEN! Once you find hope and strength it can make all the difference.
Neither site allows for ‘predatory’ behavior but ladies may want to ‘get their feet wet with the all women group and then join the Original Group for even more resources!
We can’t beat the disease of Compulsive Gambling alone no matter how much we think we can. People can have a lot of ‘Abstinence’ but not a day of Recovery! Don’t be someone with Abstinence because they have transferred their high to being recovery powerhouses who think they are better than others. Someone who can give advice but only to get a ‘fix’ they are not even aware of because it feels good. Recovery is something that is constant learning from others regardless of how long but not of how humble.
Encouragement in recovery involves being part of a family so consider these options. For those who are a part of these groups, I encourage you to share on the page that this is posted on or on the blog itself your experience. If you are reading this on Facebook commenting there will not be something seen outside of the group you are commenting on. Only if you comment on the blog itself will you be posting publicly.
This weekend consider the places you can get help. If you are on Facebook consider checking into some groups. Below are some suggestions. Below the brief description is the description for the group as listed on Facebook. they are all connected and in some cases it is best to be a part of the main group as well as the subgroup listed. Some can only be accessed if you are part of the main group and others are open to all interested. They are closed groups and you are protected from having outside people read what is there so if privacy is needed in recovery these offer it.
Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect This group is for people who are looking for a safe place to work recovery (no matter where you are in the world). It has meetings, Reading resources, video,photo and more forms of resources. This is only scratching the surface of what is there.
PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE DESCRIPTION:
This Group is for those seeking Recovery from Compulsive Gambling. We screen using specific Questions and may reach out to people requesting membership.
The group provides several things for members
1. Free resources.
2. Virtual meetings 24/7 365 days a year.
3. Sub groups for special situations such as fighting strong Urges, a study group for detoxing and a group for support people
Being a member of another Support group does not automatically get you approved it is very important to answer all questions and respond to any inquiry from an administrator.
So if you are looking for resources for your recovery from Compulsive Gambling (or someone dealing with one), this is a place to find that.
The group was started on December 29, 2017 for the purpose of providing a safe place to work on recovery for people around the world! If you are looking for such a place make a request!
TUG (Tough Urge Guard) This group is a subgroup of the Compulsive Gambling Help Connect Group and is focused on resources and connections to help those who have strong Urges and high relapse concerns. The resources here are specific to those needs.
This is a subgroup of Compulsive Gambling Recovery Connect. It is for those who are in a fight with their addiction and want to be able to Have a specific place to go when they get Tough Urges. Thus Tough Urge Guard! You can come back as often as you need but if you leave you will have to answer the questions again to be admitted back in.
30 Day Detox Work Group This is a subgroup of the parent group Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect focused on working through a book that helps change the thinking of an addict mind and detox the thought process.
This is a group for working the 30 Day Detox and hopefully encouraging recovery. Inspired by people asking for it!
You must be approved for the parent Group to be admitted here.
Recovery For Loved Ones Of Compulsive Gamblers A fairly new group for those affected by a Compulsive Gambler that are trying to learn about the addiction. Here you will find people who are in recovery as a person who is part of the circle around the Compulsive Gambler who are looking to help them.
This is a place for the loved ones of Compulsive Gamblers to find support and solace as they work to understand this disease. If you are with someone and can’t find safety in talking with them or simply struggle to decide how to handle a situation this is the place for you.
GROW: Gambling Recovery Of Women This is a place for Female Compulsive Gamblers with specific areas of recovery that are gender specific. It is again a subgroup but also an independent group of Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect.
This group is the “She Shed” and sister Group of Compulsive Gambling Recovery Help Connect. It is a place for ladies to meet and have a place just for them and issues that are best discussed in the company of other women without the men around.
Too often we think that our voice isn’t important or that no one cares about our recovery. Oddly we find it false if we look beyond our blinders. People are right there in front of us expressing their interest. Then it becomes our turn. What will we do with it? Remember that while someone cares about us they also have to care for their own well being. That means we have to reach out and be willing to accept what is given.
Wednesday August 8, 2018
Be willing to accept a hand up but also to give a hand up. Together we can but alone we can’t. Remember your value to others and in turn remember that value of others to you!
Thursday August 9, 2018
A small act of kindness can make all the difference in the world BUT when that fails to get a message across then a sift kick cant hurt either! Remember that while people are there to help you they are not there to carry you! You have to walk with someone to gain recovery not sit in the wagon and be pulled along!
It takes a lot of courage to work recovery even if we stumble or fall along the way we can achieve recovery. Remember though that recovery is not without some potential problems. Recovery for an addict is gaining remission of the disease and continuing to treat it so it stays in remission.
Monday August 6, 2018
We are Courage in recovery. We were fear, anger and more when we were in our addiction. Remember that facing recovery as a process that is work takes courage. YOU ARE COURAGEOUS and Special in recovery. Recovery is finding a new home for our growth. Find your recovery family and don’t let go!
Tuesday August 7, 2018
Recovery is believing it will be okay even when things are not going well. Find strength in facing your problems rather than hiding from them in your addiction. Look in the mirror and repeat after Robert Downy Jr. (an addict in recovery).
There is the thought by some that if you have an addiction you can be cured. There is also the idea of remission. SO which is it or is it both? Consider the difference between the two words:
Cured is defined as follows via internet definitions: relieve (a person or animal) of the symptoms of a disease or condition.
Remission is defined as follows via internet definitions: a diminution of the seriousness or intensity of disease or pain; a temporary recovery.
So in order to be cured there must be no symptoms of the disease or condition which means that even the mildest of symptoms are gone. With remission the same is true with the exception that mild symptoms may linger.
Recovery from Compulsive Gambling could be tricky as it is one of many addictions. the symptoms include over confidence and in some cases even the belief that you are cured. So in respect to true recovery a person is fully aware that the disease can present in other ways. It can be appearing to be gone but just the belief that you are not like that anymore can be a sign that you have a propensity to return.
Friday August 3, 2018
To be cured one must believe that they can’t catch it again. Do you believe that not acting on your addiction means you are cured? Have you picked up a different addiction.? A common one is the addiction of pride. Pride means that you are never going to do any addictive thing again. Remember that in being ‘cured’ you claim to not be compulsive about anything. Not saving money or anything. Remember that your recovery is remission and awareness protects from relapse or converting to another addiction.
Saturday August 4, 2018
If addiction was something you are cured of then you wouldn’t have relapses ever. Not even passing thoughts about it. Be ware of the belief that you will never do it again! Never is forever and forever is a long time!
Sunday August 5, 2018
To be cured of an addiction you should know what other addictions are lurking (including the invisible ones). To be in recovery and recognizing that remission is the truth is knowing that today is all you can be sure of.