“A point well seen is one that is given a brief ati thesis by a clueless person” Bernard Zeitler .
Over the years I have had people tell me about the proverbial ‘Elephant in The Room”. Bernard Zeitler
Sometimes it proved to be a bit unusual when I say the Family of Elephants being ignored for the one.
Here is what I mean by that.
If we talk recovery it often comes down to several different interpretations when left to the word itself. Some would argue that you can ‘reduce’ how much you gamble. Others would say total abstinence from the addiction. each has difficulties because if you talk in general terms to 10 individuals each will interpret it differently. Some may change their definition to suit their own ‘selective’ desires.
! Here is my what comes to mind
: The REAL FAMILY OF ELEPHANTS in the room is that it was: 1 Predetermined understanding is accepted.
2. Predetermined understanding is violated and ignored because it was not ‘really’ wrong.
3. Admission of the predetermined understanding being broken and taking responsibility for it.
4. Recanting responsibility for failure because predetermined understanding ‘may have been’ misinterpreted. So it was not wrong after all.
At this point a person has defined what they believe is their ‘rule’ but since it was ‘broken’ a change in interpretation was needed to justify the problem.
So the elephant in the room is the rule. It is adapted to fit what is desired in the moment.
The Family Of Elephants is that until there is consistency and firm understanding of a ‘rule’, it will always be filled with ‘loopholes’.
Recovery takes firm conviction and admission of any problems in the road. It takes understanding that ignoring the pothole in the road is not changing the fact that the wheel is bent because you hit it.